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I need a miracle by June 30, 2003,the next court date.
Is it possible?

A Relationship Problem:

I am 37 yrs old, single mother of 6m old son, whose father is trying to take away from me for full custody. I am a very good mother, his motive is vengeance and to stop paying child support.

 

We have been in court since Feb 2003 every month. I feel trapped because he is a psychiatrist and I am a licensed practical nurse and he makes way more than me and also has a better living situation at present. I just started work after 5m with no pay for maternity leave.

 

So far the courts have granted him everything he wants it appears to me. He is not a Christian nor does he believe in God as I do. I feel trapped, and because of this custody battle I have lost a lot of weight, from 123 to 106 lbs in two months. My breast milk is drying up from the stress and I don't have any money.

 

The child support is temporary until July 2003, $1,100 a month. He is trying to get it lowered until custody is decided.  I can't leave the NYC area until the custody battle is over--judges order, and I have a corporate not family lawyer pro bono (all they had at In Motion- service that offers pro bono lawyers for women). His lawyer is $100- 250 hr. She is vicious and I feel powerless.

 

He is not a good father and I can't prove it. He is using my past history of depression as grounds and had the judge subpoena my psychiatric records. I feel so violated that the judge would do this and let him see them. Seeking help of any kind is to benefit the person not hinder them, I thought.

 

I am a pediatric nurse, babies and children. I love children. I just want this to be over so I could move on and make life decisions for me and my son. I feel trapped and broke and  powerless. I read your book 4 times and purchased it for my best friend but I must be doing something awfully wrong because I want this man out of my son's life.

 

I am being honest when I say he not a good father but I can't prove it by courtroom standards. I want him gone and the judge to give me full custody and grant me all my request permanently.

 

I also want to marry a rich, God-fearing, loving, generous man who will love my son as his own and have two more children soon. I was never married to my son's father it was a 6m relationship that went bad.

 

I want to live in nice huge 2 bedroom apt with doorman in NYC on my salary now. How can any of my wants happen now? What am I doing wrong? Please give me specifics to me getting each desire. I also would like to win a lottery worth 100mil just because I could by your advice.

 

VS

 

Thank you sending me your problem, VS.

 

Let's see if this helps. To create the miracle you want, we must create a new you between now and your next court date. By that, I mean, we must change your attitude, your point of view and the way you think and feel about your problem.

 

To win, we must have you walking into that court room thinking, feeling and acting like a winner. That won't be easy, but you CAN do it if your make up your mind to it. I can see from what you've told me that you are adequately motivated!

First The Logic

Every problem begins with a BEING choice and every problem ends with a BEING SOLUTION.

 

So let's start with some logic that might help you become a winner in this. This logic won't make you feel better, at first glance, but hopefully, it will convince you that you must change YOU in order to win this court case.

 

The hardest thing for you to get in this attempt to transform you into the winner you must be, will be for you to admit to yourself that you've been playing the victim in this court room drama.

 

To get real value out of your victim role, you must allow yourself to see that you actually chose that role to play. Your husband has great power over  you only because you've given away your power to him. The only power he has is that  which you've given him.

 

Watch his power melt away when he sees you walk into that court room looking and feeling like a winner!

 

Please see that once you accept the responsibility for having chosen to be the victim, you will have regained the power you must have in order to choose to no longer BE the victim. The purpose of this logic is to give you back your power--the power to win custody.

 

Know this, VS, judges always rule in favor of the mother in custody battles unless there's something terribly wrong with the mother, especially with a child as young as yours.

 

When you walk into that court room thinking like a winner, feeling like a winner and dressed like a winner, you almost couldn't loose. Your self-confidence will blow him and the judge away, believe me!

 

If you can see the logic in this, then choose, right now, to no longer be the victim of a man who is not a fit father for your child.

 

You've read my book, so you know that we are each individualizations of a God who experiences life in and thru us as us. What does that power look like in us? ...It's the power to choose who we will BE.

 

You, as God have experienced what it's like to be a victim. Please get that there's great value in that experience, because, now, you'll really be able to appreciate how powerful you feel having chosen to no longer BE a victim.

 

In fact, you'll be truly amazed at how powerful that makes  you feel, knowing that you have the power of God behind your new BEING Choice.. knowing that everyone in your reality must now adjust to this new and powerful you.

 

At this point, having chosen out of your victim role, you should have no problem in choosing to look, feel, and act like a winner when you walk into that court room. And if you act and feel like a winner, you can't loose!

Then The BEING SOLUTION

So, how do you become a winner?  ...Choose to BE!

 

Imagine yourself walking into that court room feeling like you couldn't loose. Imagine how powerful your lawyer will feel when he meets the new you. You'll walk in together feeling confident.

 

So, VS, how would that feel, being confident, walking into that court room as a winner? How would you be dressed? How would you walk? What would the smile on your face be like if you felt like a winner? Put yourself into that picture, feel like you would if that were so and then choose to BE that winner.

 

Remember, once you've truly made your new BEING choice, the Universe must supply you with everything that belongs in the reality of the new YOU.

 

Just be sure to let me know how the judge ruled in favor of the powerful new loving mother appearing before him that day in court.

 

And when it happens, don't call it a miracle. It's just that spiritual law working, the law of Attraction, which must bring into your life everything that belongs with the new YOU.

 

I'll see you at the winner's table.

 

Darel