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A Relationship Problem
Sir: How can you know how to solve my problem? I am a widow, living alone in a small town where there is absolutely no available companions to take me to church, dinner, theater, or other places where I need an escort.
What do you suggest that I do under these circumstances? I drive and am plenty capable of going my myself but it is not desirable some time.
P.A.
A BEING Solution:
Thanks for your question, P. A. I'm sure this is a problem for which a lot of single women need a solution.
Your problem is not unique, however. And the real cause of your problem is the same as for most men and women with the same problem.
You're focusing on the problem and not the solution. You see the lack instead of the lack being fulfilled. The BEING SOLUTION for your problem is to focus on the solution for your problem.
The most interesting thing about being human is that we each create our own reality by choosing who to be and then complain because life served us up with a reality we don't really like.
Our life is a cosmic joke because we complain about peanut butter sandwiches when we fixed our own lunch.
P A the quality of our lives is determined by two spiritual laws;
The BEING Law which says, We become what we think about.
The Law of Attraction which says We attract who and what belongs in our lives as a result of our BEING choices.
When you declare, with certainty, that there are no available companions, you make that the law of your BEING. The Universe, according to that second law is bound to, must, supply the reality you've created with that BEING choice.
Now, if I could somehow convince you that what you say and believe, must manifest, and if you were to say (and believe) that there is a perfect companion somewhere near, available and looking for someone like you, that person would show up.
Sound like a fairy tale? Not really. I see that kind of fairy tale come true every day. And it's no miracle!
One of my massage therapists told me two years ago that she would probably not be staying in Albuquerque much longer. She said, "My kids are grown up and have moved out. I've been divorced for a year; my mother lives in Wyoming and getting old. So, I may go and stay with her.
So I asked her what it would take for her to stay in Albuquerque. She said, "I'd have to find the perfect man."
So I asked, "What would he look like?" She answered, "He'd have to be a loving man, live on the east side of the mountain; he'd have to love fishing and he'd have to love skiing."
I almost laughed, because that's a pretty tall order. But I was wrong to judge. She met him the next day in a sporting goods store. They were married four months later and it was a perfect match. How can I tell?
I still get a massage from her every Wednesday. I can tell by the sparkle in her eye and the smile on her face that her married life, for her, couldn't be better.
Was that a miracle, or just a coincidence? No, it was the law of attraction in action. Oh, I forgot to tell you that I told her to visualize herself BEING someone who would attract that perfect man. She did and got instant results!
You say, "That couldn't happen to me!" You're right, it couldn't happen--if that's what you believe. But, PA. it's your belief that creates your realty. How can that be?
P A, you are an individualization of a God who experiences the reality of life in and through you as you. That's why, whatever you believe to be true, must manifest as your reality.
When you make a positive statement that there are no available companions, you are right. But you'd be just as right if you said that your little town was full of available companions.
You choose who you will BE and the Universe must supply whatever belongs in the reality created by your BEING choice. How do I know that? It's the law! And that law is just as reliable as the law of gravity.
Believe me! Those companions are out there looking for you. Know that, and then make yourself available. Go to church meetings or wherever they might be while looking for you.
Your job is to BE the one they're looking for--a loving, interesting and friendly companion. Life is so simple! All you have to do is choose who to BE. Then sit back and let it happen. Just choose to BE available for the perfect companion who is also looking for you.
That's my suggested BEING Solution for you.