HOW TO stop being a victim by... =~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~= What if 99% of all problems in life persist only because we humans focus on the problem and not its solution? If that were the case,  the real problem is in your focus. The obvious solution then, would be to change your focus, wouldn’t it? =~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~=~= Every moment of your life, whether you realize it or not, requires a BEING choice. Before you can take whatever action the moment requires, you must first choose to BE the one who will or will not respond to the situation. Even when you choose not to choose or not to respond, you are, in fact, choosing to BE someone who chooses to DO nothing. Actually, there are three choices in every situation: you can, chose to fight, run, or hide. In other words, you can act, react, or do nothing. The value in being aware that each moment in life requires a BEING choice is that once you accept this premise as your reality, you cease forever in being a victim . Heaven forbid that you BE that powerful! If you think you’re not a victim, think again. You’re being a victim whenever you complain about anything. I frequently complained about the weather, when I lived in Phoenix, AZ. I especially hated it when I got into a car that had been setting out in the Sun all day in 120-degree heat. To get real value out of this example, you must see that I was choosing to BE a victim of the heat. How did I stop being a victim? I hated the summers in Phoenix, until I realized that I had my own private sauna every evening when I got off work. In those days, I played golf every weekend. After each game, I spent time in the sauna. Notice that the heat didn’t go away when I stopped being a victim. The only thing that changed was my attitude about the heat. In other words, I changed who I was being relative to the weather, and the problem was no longer part of my reality. Then every weekend, when I played golf in Albuquerque, my golfing buddies complained about the terrible 90-degree heat, and I got to laugh at their victim stories. Your BEING choice, when you’re complaining about anything, is nothing more serious than a point of view that can be changed when you’re ready to stop being the victim. You’ll get real value out of this message if and when it finally dawns on you that every moment of your life requires a BEING decision. As you read this, you must decide to accept what I’m saying as gospel or reject it because it doesn’t fit your current concept of reality. Either way, you’ve made a BEING decision. My guess is that you’ll reject what I’m saying here, because accepting it destroys your victim story and makes you powerful. Ego’s greatest fear is that you will, one day, discover Just how powerful you really are. So, my advice for you today: Each time in life that you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation, realize that the circumstance requires a BEING decision prior to your deciding what to DO. Then ask yourself, “Who would I be BEING if I were no longer stressed by what’s happening here? When you choose past the stress to a new way of looking at the problem, you’ve applied the BEING solution to your problem. Try this problem solution next time you feel stressed, or when you think you have something to complain about. You’ll be amazed at how powerful you feel once you’ve taken the power out of the circumstances and given it back to yourself.