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THE PROBLEM

Dominated by others:

Camelia said, I feel I'm still connected to my father...like an umbilical cord connecting me to his low thoughts and aspirations for his children--his need to keep us small in control and superior, the 'owner.'

THE BEING SOLUTION
( from page 188 of 'BEING' )

Camelia’s real problem was not with her father, but in whom she had chosen to BE in that relationship. She’d given away her power and lost it for herself in the process. Her father would have that power over her for as long as she chose to BE in his power.

Any time we allow ourselves to believe that we need someone else’s approval, that person will have great power over us. We may convince ourselves that we didn’t give them the power—that he or she took it—but we’re only kidding ourselves.

The fact remains that we gave away our power and only we can take it back.

Camelia alone can take her father off the pedestal of power on which she’s placed him. So Camelia, and anyone else with the same problem, here’s the question that would point you to your way out of that box:

 If you have Camelia’s problem, Ask yourself:

Who would I be BEING
  if I took away his/her right to control  me?

That question rattles your cage a little doesn't it?

In fact, Camelia also had a little trouble coming up with an answer to this question for herself, so I offered a suggestion in the form of a visualization she could use to transform the way she saw herself in the relationship with her father.

You'll find that visualization on page 189 of BEING THE SOLUTION.

Camelia did the visualization and here are the results:

Once she actualized the benefit of that visualization, she regained your personal power, and and was able to look back at her father’s need for control and smile.

She no longer hated him for who he had been or hadn’t been for her; in fact, she felt feel a little sorry for him and a little silly for having given him the power to control her.

Later, she actually thanked him for giving her the problem that she had just outgrown.

Are you being dominated by someone in your life? You might want to read Chapter 15, of BEING THE SOLUTION - Solving Relationship Problems.

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