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THE PROBLEM

Being Used:

When asked if she had a relationship problem that needed solving, Jeannie told this story:

 A friend, on her way out of town, called me from the airport to ask if I would clean her house. She said she was afraid of what her husband might say when he came home from his trip to a dirty house.

THE BEING SOLUTION
( from page 235 of 'BEING' )

Jeannie resented her friend’s request, but she didn’t say no. She cleaned the house. When I asked her why she gave in to this outrageous request, she didn’t know.

I offered to coach Jeannie on finding the power to say no in situations like this. I also suggested that a new agreement with this friend might be in order.

If you’re allowing someone you know to take advantage of your good nature in that relationship, you’ve chosen to relate to that person as their servant. They’re using you.

To regain your power, you must change your mind about who you will BE in that relationship.

You'll be amazed at how good you feel about yourself once you’ve chosen out of the victim role by simply giving yourself the power to negotiate a new agreement. You'll find what I suggested for Jeannie on page 235.

If a friend is taking advantage of your good nature - using you in some way, you may want to learn how to refuse an unreasonable request and how to negotiate a new agreement with that person.

You'll find answers for your "can't say no" problem in Chapter 18, of BEING THE SOLUTION - Find the Unwritten Agreement and the solution to your Problems.

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