"I start sweating when I think about approaching a girl"

 

A Self-Worth Problem:

Hi,

 

My question is that I like a girl that goes to my church, and I find it hard to ask her out for coffee. I guess fear of rejection and knowing that I will see her every Sunday when I’m at church.

 

My problem is I don’t know how to approach a girl. I start sweating when I think about it.

 

But once I break the ice with a girl I start to be myself and they find

me fun to be around.

 

Please help .

 

regards

Lost

A BEING Solution

Hi Lost. Thank you for sending me your problem. Your question and my BEING solution will solve the same problem for a great many others with the same problem.

 

The BEING solution for your problem will happen if you can first visualize yourself fearlessly approaching her with that invitation, and then in choosing to BE the confident one who takes her to coffee.

 

Here’s how it works:

 

When Jack Nicholas was asked for the secret to his success, he answered something like this;

I visualize myself making the perfect shot before I even take a club out of the bag. The visualization creates the mental picture of the perfect shot and what often follows is the perfect shot.

 

What’s actually happens with each of Jack’s visualizations, is that he chooses to BE the one making that perfect shot. It’s his BEING decision that’s making the perfect shots. The DOING of the shot is what just naturally follows.

 

You have said that once the ice is broken, girls find you fun to be around. The vision you need to work on is seeing the girl laughing and having loads of fun being with you. Have that vision in mind as you approach her and your confidence will soar.

 

When you have the vision that turns you on, practice lighting up this vision for ten minutes, three times a day for about 30 days.

 

In 21 to 30 days of visualizing yourself confident, you will have transformed yourself into the fun guy you really are.

 

And, Lost, since your greatest fear is of rejection, try this:

Visualize yourself being rejected by her and make that okay.

The idea here, is to learn how to deal with rejections and not take the "no" personally. In the end, you will choose to BE one who does NOT fear rejection.

 

Darel