Hello %$first name$% and welcome to this week’s edition of my newsletter. If you remember at the end of last week’s edition I posed a question to you. If you don’t remember I have included it below.

Here again is a question: Are you tired and fed up with feeling powerless—fed up with feeling like the victim of your circumstances? Are you ready yet to choose your way out of that box and BE you in an exciting new way?

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The only way out of our current circumstance is to work through what is not working for us, and the way out begins with a reality check. It begins with us taking a long hard look at our circumstances, and being willing to admit that we are not happy with how things turned out.

Notice that no problem is ever solved until we have first admitted to ourselves that we DO, in fact, have a problem. So, the first step is acknowledging the existence of our problem, and then taking responsibility for having created it.

How did we create the problem? We did that through an unwise BEING choice, whether it was yesterday, last week, last year, or even while we were still children. That’s right; we created this reality in which the problem persists.

However, when we take an objective look at the problem we can see that the real truth of the situation is that we did create this problem to begin with. Please notice that if we continue to look at the situation through the eyes of someone who is having this problem thrust upon them, we will be unable to see the true cause of our problem.

If we are seeing ourselves as a victim of our circumstances, the victim’s attitude in us will not allow us to learn the truth. So, if our ego has assumed the role of victim, we will need to take over the controls. In order to do a reality check, the Real Us must supervise the inventory process.

Then, once we have taken a serious look at our current circumstances and if we found them lacking, we will want to accept full responsibility for having created the reality in which those undesirable conditions are now the standard.

Believe me, continued attachment to the “why is this happening to me” attitude will only give us more reasons to feel like a victim.

But once we realize that we have created this mess with an erroneous BEING choice—in that moment of revelation—we will regain our power of choice. We will realize in that “ah ha” moment, that we have what it takes to make a new decision and make our way out of the problem.

Our objective for doing this reality check is a motivational nudge—a powerful reason for choosing out of our box into far better circumstances.

To effect any change of circumstance, it will be necessary for us to change our mind about whom we are—and that is a transformation in consciousness, and the only way out of our current box. Once we have chosen, we will have been transformed, as the Apostle Paul said,”…by the renewing of our mind”.

Have a super weekend and I look forward to talking with you next time.

This and many other recent newsletter topics are excepts from my book, To God Or AS God. If you would like purchase this book click on To God Or AS God.

DAREL

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