Hi %$firstname$%, and welcome! This week is the last edition of my newsletter for the month of May. We have been discussing tools that can assist us with making changes and new choices in our lives. This week I would like to discuss what occurs when the cycle is complete. When we are ready to begin the process over again we may find we have amnesia and can't remember our past successes. We may also find that we have forgotten how to leave our current box behind.

We have amnesia

A great many plots for books and movie scripts are built around a character who has had some sort of trauma, maybe a bump on the head, that caused them to forget who they are. It’s called amnesia.

It is interesting to look at why we are so intrigued by that sort of plot. We find the concept so fascinating because at some level of consciousness we know this is the story of our lives. We all have amnesia. Why do I say that? As an individualization of God we have the power to create new realities at will but how often do we remember we have that power?

We have forgotten how powerful we are.

We have been creating new realities all our lives but we keep forgetting how really powerful we are. This is the process:

-          We make a BEING choice that launches a great new reality.

-          We manifest those new circumstances.

-          We revel in our new creation for a while, and then…

-          We once again become attached to whatever reality we’ve created and forget who we really are.

At some point during this creative process we have been programmed to forget we have the power to change our circumstances with a new BEING choice. Once again we are trapped in a reality of our own making and take no responsibility for having created our predicament.

Notice that once we have lost our power of choice, we have amnesia and there will appear to be “no way out”.

Why we develop amnesia.

The Game of Life is set up in a way that encourages our continued growth in consciousness. The process seems to require that we go in and out of consciousness.

For instance, in order to grow our consciousness, we must choose out of our box. Think about that choosing-out step for a moment. We will see that before we can choose out of our box, we must be IN that box, experiencing life from that point of view.

We must assume we develop amnesia each time out of the box, so we can experience the current reality as thought it were real. Then, when ready for a change, we will have that “ah ha!” moment once again, and rediscover our power of choice. Each trip out of the box brings us to a new level of conscious awareness.

With each out-of-the-box venture, we will grow a little more aware of our true identity. But, with each time out, we have merely created a bigger box in which to play at the Game of Life. We create our new box, live in it for a while, become attached and remain stuck until we find the courage to detach and move on. What’s the point of all this?

Imagine climbing a grand staircase and with each step we are allowed to gain a whole new perspective on life. And from that new level of self-awareness we would just have to spend some time enjoying life in that exciting new reality with our brand new view of life.

The creative process

Growing our consciousness is never a giant leap to the top of the staircase. It is just a process we take to the next step, choosing out of our box whenever we are ready to detach from the status quo and move on.

That “ah ha!” moment – our growth in consciousness – will happen in the moment when we have once again, awakened to the realization that we have the power to choose to be US in a brand new way – in an exciting new reality.

The creative process for mankind is BE DO HAVE. This is the only order of creation that works for us, and each step in the creative process is essential to the next step. We can’t skip any of the steps. We must BE before we can DO and DO before we can HAVE.

When we get stuck

It is in the HAVING part of the cycle that we become attached, and then we are stuck, unwilling to let go of our attachment to the status quo. Detaching is essential to the creative process and it is the most difficult step. Notice that we cannot get where we want to be without leaving where we are now.

To grow our consciousness, we must move beyond the HAVING and into a new way of BEING us. To create the space for being US in a brand-new way, we must be able to destroy our attachments to whomever and whatever we have become attached.

This does not mean we must destroy a relationship in order to detach. Nor does it mean we must give up all possessions before choosing something new. It does mean we must detach from needing him, her, or it, so we can then experience a life in a different context. Once detached, we will still have it all, but we are no longer coming from need.

If we want life to get better in some way, detachment from our current identity will provide us with the opportunity to be us in a brand-new way.

Create Persist Destroy

To better illustrate why we develop amnesia from time to time, let’s look at the BE DO HAVE creative process as a series of out-of-the-box adventures.

BE DO HAVE, as a repeating cycle, is now CREATE PERSIST DESTROY. In comparing the two, BE becomes CREATE; DO becomes PERSIST; and HAVE becomes DESTROY. (Once we have it, IT has us.)

The cycle can begin again just as soon as we are able to detach. Once we have learned to HAVE and not be attached to the HAVING, we will be a free soul. And once again, we will be free to move onto our next daring adventure.

I hope you can see that once we are hooked, locked into the status quo, the HAVING has us. Once again, we will have developed amnesia and our ego is back in charge. Ego will then play its trump card called, “We are now stuck in the status quo, and there is no way out. “

Have a great weekend!

DAREL

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