Hi %$firstname$%, and welcome to this week’s edition of my newsletter. I hope you have been enjoying your week so far. In this edition I would like to explore the importance of having a clear understanding of our reasons behind why we want change in our lives. It will be much easier to make the changes we want if we…..

First know why?

We wouldn’t pack up and move to a new city without a pretty good reason for moving, right? So, before we attempt to choose out of our current situation into a new reality, we will want to be clear about what we really want and why we want it.

It is important that we understand that a change of circumstances for us will require a change in both our reality concept and in our self-concept. To manifest a different set of circumstances, we will have to change our mindset about who we are and what we believe.

Sounds simple and it is. But if our why is not big and powerful enough, our new BEING choice will never make it past our ego’s determined efforts to get us back into the old box. How do we acquire a why that’s big enough to motivate us and take us past our ego’s powerful resistance to change?

Our first and biggest step out of our old box would be for us to accept that a change of BEING is simply an out-of-the-box choice. We don’t need to know how it will happen, nor will we need to make it happen. But we must come to know that once we have chosen to change, the Universe will provide the how-to. All we have to do is say “yes”, to the opportunities as they come our way.

We would be putting a great deal of faith in the attractor factor. We would have to know that by simply choosing to change, we would just naturally attract the opportunities and circumstances for easily and naturally making the change. It really is that simple. Anything we want from life is a simple BEING choice away.

 For example if we decide that our out-of-the-box choice will be:

o    Make more money, our why might be to have the time to do the things we want.

o    Weight loss, our why might be to feel better about ourselves.

o    Bicycle to work, our why might be to get into better shape.

o    Learn a foreign language, our why might be to get more enjoyment out of an upcoming vacation.

Our way out of the trap…

Before we can choose to change we must be highly motivated to follow through with that decision.

The following is important enough to repeat:

Before we can choose to change our circumstances, we must:

      Be clear about what we want.

      Know why we want it.

      Know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we can have it.

      And want it so badly we can taste it.

With all four of the above items in place, we will just naturally choose into the new reality with a commitment that goes far beyond a simple want.

Once we have made a solid commitment to BE the one enjoying life in this new reality, it is as certain to manifest as day following night. But stepping into a new reality concept with that level of commitment requires a powerful why.

How do we create our why?

Begin by making a list of 20 reasons why you want this good thing to come into your life.

When the list is complete, prioritize it and build a vision of how great and wonderful your life would be having manifested the top three items on this list.

 

      How would you be enjoying life with your family if you were already……?

      What are some of the other ways you would be enjoying life more?

      What kind and quality of clothes would you be wearing?

      What would you be doing?

      Where would you go?

      Where would you live?

      What would your friends be saying?

Do you want (more money, to lose weight, bicycle to work, learn a foreign language, or….)? Paint a vivid picture of life as it would be if you already had changed and chosen to BE the one in that picture. It doesn’t matter what you are choosing, the principle remains the same.

Once you have made a solid, committed BEING choice, that new reality must always manifest – if you can find your way past your ego’s powerful resistance to this change.

But first above all else you must believe that your new reality choice will manifest. It is for this reason that I suggest that your first step not be a giant leap out of your box, but instead make it a baby step. We talked about this important step in issue #47 of the newsletter. Click on the past issues link at the end of this message to review the important points discussed in the “baby-steps” issue.

Thank you for taking part of your day to read my newsletter. I hope the information was useful. I would also like to take the opportunity to thank everyone who has sent comments regarding the newsletter. Please have a safe Memorial Day weekend and as always I look forward to talking with you next week.

DAREL

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