Hello, and welcome to this week's edition of my newsletter. This week I would like to share with you techniques for dealing with yet another trick that our egos can play on us when we decide to make a change in our lives. First let me begin by sharing with you the trick our ego's can use to keep our lives stuck.

We say we don't know how?

One of our ego's favorite stories is, "I can't choose to be different  because I don't know how! I can't be different because I don't know how to make it happen!"

But, "I don't know how", is a story our ego makes up to keep us from choosing out of our box. We have been making BEING choices all our lives, for example when we chose to be someone who could ride a bike, ski or swim. We didn't know how to do any of those things before we chose to acquire the skill did we?

If we decide to visit a friend, we would first want to make up our mind to go, and then we would work on the "how to", right? That is the way life works: first we make a BEING commitment, and then we can deal with the "how to" as we travel the path towards our goal.

It's not our job to know the "how to" before we make a BEING decision. Our job, as an individualization of God, is to make the BEING commitment; then the Universe will reveal the "how to" as we go along. Next we will take whatever inspired action shows up for doing the "how to" part.

So, if our desire is to be wealthy for example, just choose to be wealthy. Do it now. The "how to" will show up in the form of opportunities, and they'll come to you automatically without effort. We will be enthusiastically responding to those prospects as they show up with "yes, yes, and yes".

Our greatest barrier to having life be this simple is our attachment to the idea that we have to make it happen. We probably have our whole identity tied into the belief that "If it's going to be, it's up to me". Being a "make it happen" type person is what makes us feel important. That's just who we are and that IS a hard nut to crack, believe me!

To get ourselves past our "make it happen" success barriers, we must give up our "if it is to be, it's up to me" identity in favor of a new "let it happen" BEING choice -- one that would allow the Universe to provide our new BEING choice. Once we have allowed ourselves to see that's how it works, we will have found the easy way to manifest success. And believe me! Life really is that simple!

Just choose the results we want. Make our new BEING commitment, and then turn the delivery process over to the Universe. Success is not the "grit your teeth, nose to the grindstone, get it done, or else" process our ego would have us believe.

Our ego thinks money and hard work are related, but our ego has it wrong. Great successes are never about our making it happen. They are about us making the truly committed BEING choice and then letting it happen.

Our ego doesn't want us to know life is that simple! To amp up our manifesting powers, we must focus on increasing three things:

1. Our faith in principle (The BEING Principle and The Attraction Principle).

2. Growing our self-confidence to the point of allowing us to choose to BE someone different.

3. Growing our self-worth to the point that would allow us to accept the path to success when it shows up in our life.

There is no limit to the supply

Our current inability to choose an out-of-the-box goal is not a measure of what the Universe can deliver, it is a measure of what our self-worth will allow us to accept. For the Universe, there is no limit to the supply. The only limit in place is the one we have placed on what we can allow ourselves to choose and accept.

The only real way to grow our self-worth and increase our faith in the process is by proving to ourselves our manifesting powers with baby steps that become our manifested reality. Our self-confidence, our faith and our self-worth will grow with each successful manifestation.

It is important to have a clear understanding that our further success in any of its forms would require a new BEING commitment. To change from a "make it happen" person to a "let go and let the Universe deliver" way of being would require a transformation in consciousness -- a new BEING choice -- a new way of being us.

We would have to give up our identity as a "make it happen" mover and shaker in favor of the more relaxed, "choose and let the Universe provide" way of being. Can we make that BEING choice now into the stress-less life? If we intend to make that commitment, now is an excellent time.

I hope you found this information both interesting and helpful. I wish you a pleasant weekend and look forward to talking with you next Friday.

DAREL

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