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Why you don't choose

If you are ready to make a new choice about who you will be, let's review some of the beliefs and self-concepts that could stand between you and the new choice. It is your self-concept that allows the new choice to come to fruition or remain just out of reach. Let's examine what keeps your new choices just beyond your grasp.

When your self-worth stands between you and what you want, it can seem like you are never able to achieve what you desire. Another reason it is difficult to achieve your new being choice is that this new choice does not fit within the context of who you have chosen to be. For example you may want loving relationships in your life but if you believe that no one loves you how can this new choice of loving relationships grab hold and become your reality? If you are cursed by perfectionism, and when I say that I mean you always have to be perfect in everything you do, it will be difficult for new experiences to come into your life because you will be immobilized by the fear that you must do it perfectly from the beginning. When you are able to allow yourself the experience of learning, making mistakes and growing, you will find success everywhere. Giving yourself the space to make mistakes and learn new things makes the process of stepping out of your box easier. And the more often you are able to grow out of your box through laughter and fun the more enjoyable your life will be because you will be experiencing it to the fullest.

If you are finding it difficult to visualize your life as I described above you maybe coming up against mind chatter. We have discussed this several times in past newsletters, if after reading this edition you would like additional information please visit the archives page by clicking on the link at the bottom of this page. During each transformation process we make during our lifetime we are likely to encounter some form of mind chatter. It could be minimal or it could be extreme. I have found from my years of coaching that your ego is most successful at sabotaging a new being choice when you have not yet completely developed the certainty of achieving your new being choice. Here are a few examples of what mind chatter associated with the resistance to a new being choice might look like. If you are not paying close attention to your thoughts you may not hear the mind chatter as it passes through your thoughts. You might hear, "You can't do that because.....", "You have tried that one before and failed why do you think this time will be any different", "You don't have what it takes to accomplish that", and the list can go on and on. When you catch yourself doubting your ability, I find that it always helps to ask, " why not?". When you ask that question, it allows you to take a moment and step back from the situation. In this moment you can learn to gain an objective perspective on the situation and reinforce why you truly want this new being choice to manifest in your life.   

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