Welcome to this week’s edition
of my newsletter. In this week’s edition we continue our look at the nine
steps to change.
There are Nine Steps everyone
MUST take if they are to overcome the reasons why they are not making the
changes they want in their lives. These nine steps are explained in detail in
my book “Being The Solution”. If you don’t yet have your copy,
click here to order.
The Nine Steps
- Rediscover your personal
power, the power of choice.
- Accept that you have
chosen what you have in your life now.
- Know what you really want.
- Develop a burning desire.
- Choose to BE the one who
will have what you want in your life.
- Transform yourself by
changing your mind about who you are and how you will relate to the
circumstances in your perceived reality.
- Understand your resistance
to the change you desire.
- Overcome the resistance
and learn how to deal with it in a powerful “in control” way.
- Form or join a support
group that can provide you with unconditional support.
Two week’s ago in this
newsletter we discussed Step 3 of the nine step process - How can I know
what I want? We make Being choices 24 hours a day 7 day a week. Our minds
are working on Being choices even while we are sleeping. If you are having
difficulty with this idea you are not alone. I have started the process of
creating an e-booklet similar to “The Winner’s Secret” and “The Success
Blockers” that will address this very issue in greater detail so stay tuned.
Some of the choices we make
are accomplished without our even being aware that we made a Being choice.
Deciding which pair of shoes to wear is a Being choice. Our shoes reflect who
we are choosing to be while we are wearing them. However, some Being choices
take more time and more energy to accomplish and will require us to
Creating A Burning Desire for the change that we
want. Step 4 - Creating A Burning
Desire is the topic for this week’s newsletter.
If we want to change some aspect of our life, whether it
is something small or large, stoking the flames of our desire for this change
is a necessary step. Maybe we want to begin walking everyday, or cooking
healthier foods for ourselves and our family, remodeling our home or buying a
car for our child who has just graduated. Wanting something in our life can be
as small as trying a new ice cream store we heard about or as large as asking
for a promotion at work. Wanting comes in all shapes and sizes and whether we
realize it or not, each and every time we want something and choose to have
it, whether small or large, we need motivation to act. I call this motivation
a burning desire. Some choices require a match to ignite the desire within
while other choices will require a bon-fire. Why? Some choices are baby steps
outside our current box and some are giant steps outside our box. When taking
a giant step outside our box, I always suggest breaking the steps down into
baby steps so that our ego is less able to discourage us from moving into that
larger box.
The world is filled with a multitude
of wishful thinkers who want stuff they will never have, because they haven’t
learned that the number one step toward having the life they want is a new
BEING commitment. Until they realize their mistake and take that step, they’ll
be among the huge number trapped in wanting a life they’ll never have.
Knowing what we want won’t
get it for us. To have it, we must first choose to BE the one to whom it
belongs because we have a powerful ego, determined to resist any BEING change,
we will remain trapped in our current reality until we find our way past that
resistance. The key to opening the door to a better life, the key to finding
our way past the resistance, will be our burning desire for that change.
If we want our life to be
different, we must convert our want list into a desire that will be powerful
enough to move us to choose. Once we have made our new BEING choice, our
burning desire will turn into enthusiastic anticipation. What we’re looking
for here is a way to turn up the heat under our desire, fanning the flames,
until our desire becomes the powerful motivation we must have if we are to
take the BEING step.
If we are stuck in “Wantsville”
it is because that’s the place in consciousness that best represents our
current perception of reality. It means we haven’t allowed ourselves to
seriously consider the possibility of having our life be better, because that
reality is outside the vision that runs our life (our concept of reality). To
develop a burning desire we will need to change that vision.
So, how did our concept of
reality get created? To get the picture, think of our subconscious mind as an
elephant, trained at an early age to stay within a twenty-foot circle. The
elephant’s training was accomplished with a ten-foot chain attached at one end
to its hind leg, and at the other end to an iron stake. After many futile
attempts to get outside that circle, the elephant’s reality became a
twenty-foot circle.
Maybe, someone helped us
establish the outer boundaries of our reality by telling us that it wasn’t
okay to want. Our subconscious mind, like the elephant, is bound by a vision
of reality that won’t allow us to see or think outside that circle. If we can
change that vision and make it seen real, we can build the fire under our
desire that will motivate and move our “elephant” to break out of the circle.
Let’s look at an example of how an elephant’s vision might get changed.
Please join us next week when
we continue our discussion. I am please to announce that my new blog is now up
and running. I would like to invite you to visit it at
www.richbits.com/Blog. Have a wonderful week ahead and I look forward to
talking with you next time.
