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Pretending Is Disempowering

Once of ego's on-going traps is our story - our act. As a small child, we developed our story as a reaction to life, that decided who we would be from then on, or until we were ready to change our mind. From the perspective of a child we may have come to some erroneous conclusions about life and how we would have to deal with situations in order to survive. At any moment, we can choose to rethink our four-year-old-self's conclusion that we developed to protect us!

If we take a closer look at the foundation of these beliefs it is interesting to notice that the beliefs of adults around us at the time were instrumental in how we decided to react to life's situations. It is instinctual that our ego would make the connection to create our beliefs based on what the adults around us believed. If the adults around us believed or made us feel that in order to be loved and accepted we had to prove ourselves worthy then we would believe that we had to prove that we were good enough, smart enough or loveable enough. Our act, our on-going need to prove ourselves worthy in some way would then become our reality trap, a self perpetuating pattern for our life.

And because our self-concept and our reality concept determine what we have in our life, we are destined to keep on manifesting the same need-to-prove reality, until we decide to uncover and discontinue running our act.

The Tool

In order to figure out what our act is, we might want to ask ourselves;

What am I trying to prove?

  • That I am good enough?

  • Or that I am not?

Then ask yourself:

  • Do I really want to continue running that act?

  • Or do I want to be real and see where that takes me?

It is a major accomplishment to come to a point in our lives when we can step back and gain some perspective on what we believe about life. If we have beliefs that are no longer working for us but have not yet paused for perspective, here is what can occur. Keeping up a pretense is a powerful energy drain. Pretending is disempowering because we are not being real. The people we love and care about won't even know the real us. It may even be difficult for us to recognize the real us. Not knowing the real us defeats the self-discovery process, the true purpose of The Game of Life. Others who are being real, will see through our act and label us a phony.

The irony of our act is that we are already good enough, smart enough and loveable enough, but that can never be so for us until we have changed our need to prove our act. Think about that for a minute. How great would life be for us if we had nothing left to prove? What if our manifesting powers were proven beyond the shadow of a doubt, and we were so certain about life that we could spend the rest of our life helping others find that level of certainty? We would really be making a difference. Our enthusiasm, joy and happiness is God's omnipotent power in and through us as us. And life just can't get any better than that.

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Chapter 7 - Trapped In Your Act

 "To God Or As God" - Pg. 70 & 71

 

How Your Act Came To Be

When you were no more than a child, a simple and perhaps insignificant incident triggered a conclusion that was to become the pattern for your life. Something was said or done that hurt your feelings and rattled your cage. As a result of that upsetting experience, you arrived at some inappropriate conclusion about life. That deduction became your set-in-stone reality concept.

 

Based on that earlier supposition, you decided who you would be and how you would deal with life. But that was merely a child's reactive point of view. Think about that for a moment and allow yourself to see that you are now stuck in the ups and downs of a merry-go-round reality created by a 4-year old.

 

What if you misinterpreted the significance of that incident and arrived at the wrong conclusion when you were a child?

 

Then your whole reality concept would be based on a child's tall tale. Think of the consequences if your reality concept is based on an erroneous conclusion. Since that reality concept is what determines the content in your life, you'd be wise to rethink that original conclusion, wouldn't you?

 

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Chapter 2 - Our Resistance To Change

from my book

"So, Why Aren't You Rich?" - Pg. 50 & 51

 

His Barrier To Prosperity

For several years of his early adult life, my friend, Dr. Herb Beatty, had trouble allowing himself to accumulate wealth. He worked at it and prospered, but he could never allow himself to think about becoming rich. Then one day he remembered a long forgotten incident from his childhood, and the light dawned.

 

As a small boy, riding in the back seat of his parents car, Herb overheard his mother comment about their neighbor.

 

They must have stolen the money to buy that new car.

There's no way they could have come by it honestly.

 

Young Herb was totally unaware that he had just been programmed to think about people with money as the bad guys.

 

In later years, when considering the possibility of becoming rich, he was stopped time and again by this hidden program which controlled his attitude about the rich.

 

He could never allow himself to be one of THEM.

 

When Herb finally remembered the incident from his childhood, he immediately recognized it as his barrier to becoming rich. He easily saw his parents prejudice about rich people as nothing more than justification for their lack of prosperity. He discarded this foolish prejudice almost as soon as he remembered it.

 

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Chapter 3  - In The Image And Likeness Of God

from my book

"Being The Solution" -  Pg. 39

 

"Why me, God?"

When I was a carpenter years ago, I carried a lunch box to work every day and ate my lunch on the job site. Once of my lunch companions constantly complained about "These damn peanut butter and jelly sandwiches."

 

So, I asked him, "Why don't you have your wife fix something else?"

 

He answered, "I don't have a wife. I make my own sandwiches."

 

You think that's funny? The most important thing you could get from this story is that you fixed your own lunch. You did that when you chose who you would be. You did that when you chose how you would think, act and react to the circumstances in your life. If you are tired of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, fix a different lunch. Make a new choice about who you will be, and one day soon, you will open your lunch box to find a gourmet meal.

 

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