^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
RICHBITS
is a free weekly ezine dedicated to helping you see
that every problem you face in life will
ultimately be solved only
after you've chosen the BEING
SOLUTION for that problem!
The RICHBITS
intention:
to help you find
your own BEING SOLUTION.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The RICHBITS
format:
RICHBITS is now a testimony series intent
on bringing you
new BEING
CHANGE success stories each week.
That, of course, means that I need your success story!
I receive emails
each week telling me how that week's story
really made a difference
in his or her life.
Think about sharing
your story!
Wouldn't be great
if your success story made a big difference
in the life of someone
in another part of the world?
If your transformation
has made a significant difference in the
quality of your
life, your story could inspire someone else that
there's hope. Maybe
they could do the same !
Just tell me your success story and I'll do the rest!
The young lady
who shared today's success story will be
receiving one
of my three books as a bonus! --her choice.
When you send me your story, let me know
if I should use your
name, your initials only, or keep it anonymous.
This week's BEING
Success story is one that must
remain anonymous.
So this is story as written is my
slightly altered
version of what she told me.
We'll call the
young lady in this story, Beth.
_______________________________________________________
:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:
¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯
Beth's problem
Beth, one of my
subscribers, called me in a dilema. She was
trying to decide
what she should do about the unwelcome phone
call she had, just
that day, received from the father that she
hadn't seen or spoken
to in years--even though they lived in the
same city.
Molested as a child,
Beth had grown to hate her father and had
broken off with
him years earlier--in fact, she'd not spoken to
him even once in
seven years. And now, out of the blue, he calls!
The father had called
Beth asking for a meeting with the intention
of establishing
a new father/daughter relationship. Beth was
quite certain that
she didn't want that relatationship
reestablished under
any circumstances.
When we talked
...Beth hadn't agreed
to the meeting, but she hadn't said "NO"
either. She was
torn between not wanting to ever see him again
and the guilt she
knew she would feel if she said "no" to the
meeting without
hearing him out.
Beth had replied
that she'd have to think about it and get back to
him.
She called me,
hoping that I would tell her what to do, and of
course I told her
I couldn't offer that kind of advice. But I told Beth
that I might be
able to coach her on how to think and feel about
the situation.
This is what I
told Beth
I said, Beth, this
may seem to be about your father. It's not. This
is about you. I
gather, from what you've told me, that your father,
after all these
years still has some power over you even though
you're not seeing
him. Avoidance doesn't make the problem go
away.
So, what you need
to get is that the only power your father has is
that which you've
chosen to give him.
Even the anger and
resentment that you feel toward your father
gives him power.
You're saying that he makes you angry. And
that's not the case!
He doesn't have the power to make you
angry. You do that
all by yourself to yourself.
I can see that you've
built a fire in your heart that burns when you
think about him.
But, Beth, he didn't build that fire; you did! And,
guess who gets burned
by that fire in your heart?
But I'm not suggesting
that you to forgive him to make the anger
in your heart go
away. I am suggesting that you take away his
power to make you
angry.
You can begin the
process by realizing that he has no power
except that which
you've given him.
You are being controlled
by an old vision of your father as the
authority figure
and you as the child. You will need to replace that
vision with one
that serves you better.
Choose a new way
of being in that relationship--one that takes
away his power and
gives it back to you. See yourself as the
adult standing tall,
and your father as a child standing three feet
tall. Notice In
that picture that he just lost his power.
Every situation in
life and every relationship requires a BEING
choice. It only
seems like the decision required is about deciding
what to do. That's
not so. The real decision in every circumstance
you face, requires
first a BEING decision and then, and only then,
will you truly know
what you must do.
What you'll end
up doing is merely the natural thing for you
to do now that
you've made your BEING decision.
So, Beth, to stand
tall, choose your new way of BEING in that
relationship. You've
made the mistake of assuming that because
you were not talking,
that you didn't have a relationship with him.
But you were wrong.
Regardless of what
you thought, the truth is that you made some
sort of decision
years ago about how you would relate to your
father--to disassociate
with him. But, Beth you went off and left
that fire burning
in your heart. You DO have a relationship now.
He's still there,
standing tall even though you are avoiding
contact.
To solve your problem,
you must create a new relationship--
a relationship that
YOU choose!
To solve your problem
with your father, you must
recreate that relationship
in a way that takes away his power
to make you angry,
afraid, or powerless.
Did Beth take
my advice? you bet!
You see, she made
a new BEING choice, and she's no longer
the victim in that
relationship and she's standing tall,no longer
feeling angry. She
chose not to renew the relationship and she's
totally okay with
that decision
In my book, BEING
THE SOLUTION, you'll find two whole
chapters and many more examples like Beth's
for solving
your relationship problems.
Check it out at: http://www.beingsolution.com
=+=+=+=+=+=+=+=+=+=+=
Beth, thank you
for letting me share this story with my
subscribers.
=+=+=+=+=+=+=+=+=+=+=
If you have a
success story that resulted from BEING
the solution
to your problem we'd like to hear about it.
RICHBITS goes out to subscribers all over the world.
So, when you share
your BEING change success story with
us, you need to
know that your example solved that same
problem for maybe
several others somewhere in the world.
Darel
_______________________________________________________
-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-
¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯
If you have a
relationship problem
...you might want
to take Beth's story to heart and use it as
an example for solving
that relationship problem where you
see yourself as
the viction.
Think you are
not a victim?
You are a victim
in any relationship that presents you with
problems that you
feel powerless to solve.
Almost everyone has
a relationship that fits that description.
Believe me, the
solution to your problem is a BEING SOLUTION.
To solve your problem,
begin by knowing that no one has any
power over you that
you haven't given them.
Solution:
Take back your power
by choosing a new way of BEING in
that relationship!
The sad part about
being powerless in a relationship is
that they didn't
take away your power. You gave it away,
to them.
The truth is that
once you focus your attention on BEING the
solution to any
sort of problem, your problem will have no reality
in which to exist!
The
solution to your problem is only a
BEING
DECISION away!
So try it!
Take
your attention off your problem and begin to focus on the
problem's solution.
If you can maintain that focus, you will be truly
amazed that solving
your problem could have been that simple.
Once you've chosen
the BEING Solution, your problem will simply
cease to exit. No,
I'm not kidding!
About your success
story
Don't be bashful about telling us your
BEING SOLUTION success
story! You will feel even more empowered
when you realize that
hearing about your success will almost
undoubtedly inspire
someone else to seek the same solution
in their life.
And, there's a bonus for telling us!
Tell us your
story and earn yourself one of the free books
listed above.
=+=+=+=+=+=+=+=+=+=+=
About the Online
BEING Workshop
I'm in the process,
of choosing the teleconference company to go
with for the Online
BEING WORKSHOP and I'm doing the final
edit this week on the workbook pages for
that workshop.
I'm excited about doing the workshop now
that I'm almost finished
getting it ready.
This workshop will be a powerful transformational
experience for
those who are ready to change the quality
of their lives--it's more
powerful than anything I've ever done
before.
If you're interested in checking out
this workshop as something
you might want to do, let me know and
I'll put you on the list.
for first notification. If you want to
be notified,
click on the mailto below:
mailto:darel@richbits.com?Subject=Keep_me_posted_on_workshop
This time a limit
235 people signed up to do the last Online
BEING Workshop
before I could close the gate on registrations.
That was, by far, too many participants
for me to give any
personal attention to any one of them.
On the last workshop,
I made the mistake of setting a time deadline
for registrations
instead of a number of registrants limit.
This time the limit will be set on the
number of participants.
So, when I announce the details, you'll
want to get your bid in
early. Those who've expressed an interest
will receive first
notice and first right of refusal.
>=+o+=<>=+o+=<>=+o+=<>=+o+=<>=+o+=<>=+o+=<>=+o+=<
I'm also scheduling
in-house Being workshops. If you are
interested in having me do a workshop
at your church or in your
city, give me a call at 877 884 8509.It's
a toll free call. The cost
per participant is probably much less
than you imagined..
>=+o+=<>=+o+=<>=+o+=<>=+o+=<>=+o+=<>=+o+=<>=+o+=<
If someone forwarded this copy of RICHBITS
to you and you'd like
To subscribe to RICHBITS, click on the
following mailto.
mailto:darel@richbits.com?Subject=subscribe_me_please
If you'd like to learn more about BEING
THE SOLUTION, the book,
go to:
http://www.beingsolution.com
If you've got a problem,
A BEING SOLUTION is the only real solution!
Darel