What Is The Difference Between Destroy and Detach
Most people go through a process call CREATE PERSIST DESTROY, because they do
not understand that their life is about the unfolding of their being.
Self-growth is a simple and on-going process of growing your consciousness by
making BEING choices, continually choosing to be you in a brand new way. This
transformation process is simple and it would also be easy if we could just say
no to the old and step into the new way of being you.
If we were wiser than most, we would realize that our upset and our fears are
simply our resistance to the natural unfolding of our BEING. We would know that
the unfolding is a process that must go on even though we'll spend most of our
life in the status quo avoiding the unfolding.
To get to the other shore, you must put both feet in the boat. But since most
of us do not understand the necessity for detaching from the old before choosing
out and into something new, we've made the transformation process extremely
painful and difficult.
The creative process for mankind is BE DO HAVE, but for most of us the
process is called CREATE, PERSIST & DESTROY, because we don't get it about the
unfolding process and because as our survival oriented ego, we avoid the pain of
detaching with a passion. And our resistance to change turns the detaching
process into DESTROY.
As teenagers, we had to crap in the nest
and make our parents angry, in order to
feel justified in choosing the freedom of being on our own. As teenagers we
destroyed the nest instead of just detaching, because neither our parents nor we
understood the unfolding process and the necessity for detaching before
declaring our freedom to BE us in a brand new way outside the box.
The average person spends 31/2 years in the CREATE PERSIST DESTROY cycle.
Self-discovery, the unfolding process, is not a destination, it is a journey. The
most important thing you can learn to speed up the unfolding process is the art
of detaching instead of DESTROYING the relationship in order to move on. In
other words, you do not need to burn the boat before you step ashore.
Are you making a new choice for authentic reasons or from
ego?
Once you've made your new BEING choice, there will be some
doing necessary for perfecting your new role in life. Once your new reality is
accepted, your ego becomes the maintainer of that reality concept. But your
reality concept is just a new box that you've created with outer boundaries set
up to keep you safe from the unknown outside that box.
Your ego is a doing creature that lives
and survives only in a box; its motivation is survival and it makes doing
decisions from inside the box with survival of that reality concept in mind. Ego
does not make out of the box decisions.
Only the spirit of God in you makes the
out of the box BEING decisions. The resulting doing decisions will be inspired
creative doing, not survival type doing. Two powerful forces in you motivate
your doing and at the same time, activate the Attraction Principle; one of those
attracting forces is fear; the other is love.
Every time you do or decide to do
something different, ask yourself if you feel good about that decision. If you
don't feel good about it, choose again. The rule of thumb is to go with the
heart. Your heart will know when you've made the right choice. When in doubt,
ask yourself whether this decision was made out of love or fear. Then I think
you'll know which is which.
How do you know the difference
between saying "no" and making a new BEING choice or saying "no" from resisting
something.
Saying "NO" to what's not working is
your first step out of the box, because it frees you from a previous "YES" that
no longer works for you. That earlier "YES" was an agreement you made before you
changed your mind about who you would be. Your "NO" is a form of detaching and
it is what created the space for your saying "YES" enthusiastically for what you
DO want.
Your ego would resist your saying "NO"
because it doesn't want you to be the "bad guy". It is that fear of saying "NO"
to what's not working, hurting someone's feelings, being the bad guy, that makes
you a slave to the status quo in a relationship that's no longer nurturing you.
Further unfolding of your BEING
requires moving beyond the fear boundaries and into new territory. Your fears of
what lies outside your cage are the bars of your cage resisting the unfolding.
The resistance is totally natural and to be expected.
When you get upset with yourself for
those feelings of fear, worry and self-doubt, you are resisting the resistance.
Fear is always the avoidance of some form of imagined pain. If you can allow
yourself to experience the pain, you will no longer fear it and will have moved
past it with a Winner's Attitude and a more glorious life outside your box.
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Chapter 25 - Practicing The Presence
"To God Or As God" - Pg. 177
Everything new that ever happened in your life began
with an intention, a BEING choice, and it ended in manifesting some form of
consequence.
If you are not happy with the emotional ups and downs
or the circumstances you've created, you'll want to make that new BEING choice
now. Simply choose to BE the one in charge.
The task of taking charge of your life is simply a
matter of managing your BEING choices, moment by moment. Before you can do that,
you must choose and be committed to BEING the one in charge. Taking charge is
simply a BEING choice.
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Chapter 6 - The Cycle, Create,
Persist, Destroy
from my book
"So, Why Aren't You Rich?" -
Pg. 149
Understanding The Destroy Process
From time to time, when we've outgrown our
circumstances, we will find a way to detach ourselves from the current state of
affairs, hoping to move on to something new and better.
Detaching ourselves from the current reality
is a necessary part of the creative process.
In order to reach the other side of the lake, we must
cast off from this shore. But most of us don't understand the DESTROY process.
We tend to look upon the DESTROY procedure as the end of something great and
wonderful, when we should be seeing it as the doorway to an exciting new
adventure in our lives.
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Chapter 8 - Choosing To Be Rich
from my book
"Being The Solution" -
Pg. 97& 98
