Trapped In Your Act
When I was 4 years old I followed my
older brother George, to school one day. We were 4 blocks from home before
he noticed me. He became very angry, cussing me all the way back home because I
was making him late for school. As a result of that silly incident, that
four-year old came to the conclusion that since my older brother didn't love me,
After pouting for a while I came to the
conclusion that needing people made you vulnerable to pain. I made up my mind as
a four-year old that I would never allow myself to need anyone again. My story
became, "I don't need anyone". I want you to see that
my story was arrived at for the purpose of avoiding pain.
That story ran my life for the next 40 years, until I was able to remember the
event that triggered my erroneous conclusion.
I'm telling you my story, sharing my
act with you, because I want you to become aware that
you also have an act, we all do.
And, realize it or not,
your act is running your life! I want you to
see that your act is set up as a means of avoiding some form of pain.
Your act is whatever role you've
chosen to play in life.
Your act is the brave front you're
using to protect and hide your vulnerability.
Your act is whoever you've chosen
to BE, so you would never be hurt again in the same way.
Your act is also your ongoing
attempt to prove something you thought you needed to prove, but that you
would have no need to prove if you could accept that it was already so. And
it already is!
The trouble with having an act is
that it hides the Real You. And the problem with your story is that you made
it up at a time in your life when you were not old enough or wise enough to
understand the life-altering consequences of your having arrived at such a
You'd be wiser than most if you could
accept that you do in fact, have an act, and even wiser still if you
realized that your act has you. Your act is the
story you're using to hide your fear, the bars of your cage.
Those hidden fears are in place to keep you safe. Fears are the avoidance of
pain, and the only way past your fear is through the pain and out the other side
with a Winner's Attitude.
The pain you are avoiding with your
story will be locked into your body until you find the courage to release it
with a walk through the pain. Why experience the
pain, real or imagined? Because the necessary
Winner's Attitude and the success you want is on the other side of the avoided
Ego's tricks for trapping you once again in the old box
A pipe dream goal (your ego does
not fear an unbelievable goal)
You have amnesia
There's no way out
I don't know how
The ego con job
- You have
tomato plants, but no ripe tomatoes
- It was fluke,
it would have happened anyway
- It was a
- You couldn't
do it again
It is important to realize that
in order to win out in any situation, you must first
acquire the Winner's Attitude. And by winning,
I don't mean when you win someone else must lose. In fact, it means exactly the
opposite. To be a real winner in every situation, you will want every outcome in
every situation to be a win-win for both parties.
And the only way that can happen is if you are totally unattached to the
Most of us, realize it or not, are
trapped in a game of survival, our act. In other words, you already have a
defensive attitude about life in most situations, and the world around you is
responding automatically to that attitude. In most cases, for most of us, our
attitude will be part of our defense system.
Your defense system is your story about life that you created to keep you safe
But in most cases the imagined harm you
are avoiding is not real. You just made it up as you went along.
Your survival mechanism is your act, your story.
Your story is the embodiment of your
beliefs. It is the foundation from which you create. You live within the
experience of your beliefs and create within the context of their limits. You
are your reality. To realize that there is no
limits to your being is to release the limiting beliefs with which you define
your being. But it is your attitudes in each situation that define your story.
The caging effect, the outer walls
of your story (act), were originally set up to protect you from harm or to avoid
pain, and also enslave you and limit the choices you make. In that cage,
avoiding pain, you'll tend to lose touch with knowing that you are the creator
of your reality.
The only way out of that cage is a
walk through the avoided pain and out the other side with a Winner's Attitude.
How does walking through the pain give you a Winner's Attitude?
When you step into your fear, only
one of two things can happen; either what you feared does not happen, and you
will realize it was unfounded, or what you are fearing does happen, and you'll
realize that not only can you cope with it, you will have healed the wound
created when you first shielded yourself from experiencing that pain.
In either case, in allowing yourself to
experience the pain, you are liberated, alive, joyful and happily BEING you on
the other side of your fear. Believe me, you did not make the pain go away by
avoiding it; you merely created a wound that will stay with you until you find
the courage to experience the pain.
Chapter 5 - The Winner's Attitude
"To God Or As God" - Pg. 52
What's is a winner's attitude?
A winner's attitude is more than a state of mind; it is
actually a spiritual awakening that allows you to know, intuitively, that you'll
win no matter what obstacles you may face along the way toward your goal.
It is that Spirit of Aliveness in you that will step
into and fill the gap once your fear has gone away. In that moment of making it
totally okay to fail, you will have experienced your ego's death and rebirth.
Some other ways to describe a winner's
You could call it all of the above, but it's really
much more than that, it's the Real You in charge!
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Chapter 11 - Who's In Charge?
from my book
"So, Why Aren't You Rich?" -
Pg. 270 & 271
To know what life is about, we need an overview
that allows us to see that we are not our ego. We are, instead,
spiritual beings having a human experience.
Growing up is the process of learning to see life from
an objective rather than a subjective point of view.
To take charge of your life,
you need to look beyond your ego's delusions
and begin to see your life through the eyes of Spirit.
When your Spirit takes charge, fear will no longer be a
barrier to your success, and as a transformed individual you will be filled with
a new sense of aliveness. Life for you will take on a whole new meaning.
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Chapter 8 - Choosing to Be Rich
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"Being The Solution" -
It's only an illusion
As long as you continue to believe that your
reality is solid, locked in stone and unchangeable, you will find no way
out of the box you've built for yourself. But once you can see your
reality as a figment of your imagination, you will have found your power
of choice and the way out.
Our realities are each an illusion, built out
of nothing more solid than attitudes, opinions and points of view. You
and I were given the power to choose who we each would be, and an ego as
the means by which we would experience that choice as our separate
realities. Individual realities would not be possible if we didn't have
an ego that performs the miracle of making our individualized realities
Each and every one of us on this planet has the
power to create his or her own reality, and we've each done that. The
remarkable thing here, is that while living under exactly the same
circumstances, we can each experience life from a different point of
view, each living our lives in entirely different realities.
Now that you're aware that your perceived
reality is an illusion, you must know that your true reality is not in
your circumstances, but in your attitude about those circumstances.
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