Conquer Your Fear of Failure
Did you know that your fear of failure
is not what it seems to be?
Conquering Your Fear of Failure
Fear of failure would seem to come from a fear of loss and
perhaps from wondering, "What will THEY think of me if I fail?"
But the
real fear here, hidden behind thoughts like,
"Maybe I'm not good enough or smart enough",
is your ego's fear of change.
To conquer your fear of failure, you'll need to recognize, "What if I fail?" as
nothing more than basic ego fear-tactic mind chatter designed to get you back
into the status quo box.
Those who've succeeded greatly in life have come to see
failure as their honored teacher.
On their path to success, they will have
failed more than once, maybe many times. The successful ones would all tell you
that failure happens only when one quits, never to try again.
In fact, one of the first rules of success says, "You
won't win until you've made failing okay." And
then, there's another great Game of Life rule along that same vein: "Winning
is next to impossible while trying not to fail."
As long as your fears have you focused on surviving, not
on winning, you'll probably fail. When acting out of fear, every move you
make, every action you take, will be a reaction, a defense tactic based on your
need to survive at all costs. I think you can see that survival tactics are
not the attitude of a winner.
To conquer your fear of failure, you must:
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Make it okay to fail
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See each failed venture as just another valuable lesson
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Separate yourself from the venture
The story is told about when a reporter asked Thomas
Edison, the inventor, if the 400 failed experiments on the electric light
discouraged him. Edison replied, "Not at all. We
now know 400 things that won't work."
Can you see that Edison's failed experiments were not his
personal failure. He did not become a failure because the experiments failed;
nor would you be a failure if your next attempt at success failed. You'd
just know one more thing that didn't work and you'd be a step farther down your
path toward being a success.
To beat your fear of failing, take an objective position
regarding both success and failure. Separate yourself from the venture, making
it totally okay to fail, but knowing that your enthusiastic success driven
motivation sets the odds for success in your favor.
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Chapter 2 - Our Resistance To
Change
from my book
"So, Why Aren't You Rich?" -
Pg. 39 & 40
Expect The Resistance
The transformation process is painful only
because our ego doesn't want us to be transformed. If you are in the
process, but not yet transformed, you will have second thoughts from
time to time about your decision to change your life. In every weak
moment (that's when you stop thinking about your goals and start
thinking about the possibility of failure),
your ego will put fear in your heart,
making you wonder if you made the right
decision.
When you're afraid, you will know that your
ego, your build-in resistance to change, is back in charge. That
resistance will show up in the form of reasons why you shouldn't
proceed.
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Chapter 3 - In The Image And
Likeness of God
from my book
"Being The Solution" -
Pg. 32
