The Power In Making
Decisions
When you walk into a Baskin Robbins
store to order your favorite ice cream flavor, you may think this was just a
trip to the best ice cream place in town, but there is really more to it than
that. I've used this example before, but it makes a very excellent and simple
example.
So, let's take another look at what
really happens when you give yourself an ice cream break. This is not just
something you did; there were several being choices involved. Realize it or not,
you won't do anything in life without first choosing to BE the one who can and
will do it.
This trip to the ice cream store
actually required eight decisions to complete the process.
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First:
When you decided you wanted ice cream, you were actually choosing to BE
someone who deserved a break and a special treat. You first have to make it
okay to take the time off.
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Second:
You will have chosen to BE an individual who would rather have an ice cream
break than a Starbucks coffee break.
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Third:
You had to decide which Baskin Robbins Store
you'll go to.
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Fourth:
Before you could choose Butter Pecan, you first had to BE someone who
could say, "NO" to the other 30 flavors.
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Fifth:
Then you chose your favorite flavor, you chose to BE a
"Butter Pecan" person or chocolate or Pralines & Cream.
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Sixth: You
chose a cup instead of a cone, or the other way around.
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Seventh:
You ordered one dip or two.
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Eighth:
You chose where to sit, or not to sit, but to take it with you.
I want you to see that each of those
minor decisions for doing activities, required first a being choice, the doing
followed. The creative process, as always, is BE DO HAVE. Why is it important to
keep this order of creation in mind?
I want you to begin to see decision
making as a process for exercising your personal power, a way of growing your
confidence. This confidence growing exercise
will begin to work for you as soon as you see the connection between the doing
and the being choice that preceded it.
It is a rule of life that the doing,
the action part, must always follow the being choice. If you are serious about
wanting to know who you are, take a look at what you've chosen for yourself;
notice what you have allowed yourself to have.
The power of choice is a sort of
catch
22 situation. If you can't choose, if you have trouble making even small
decisions, it's because you don't know who you are. And you won't know who you
are until you've chosen.
Once you truly know who you are, you'll
know what belongs with you, you'll know what you want; you'll know how to get
it, and you'll choose to be the one to whom it belongs by right of
consciousness.
Let me say that again:
When you know who you are, you'll know what you want and
you'll choose it because it belongs with you!
Well, let's face it, your true purpose
in life, realize it or not, is that you finally come to know who you really are.
Who you really are, is an individualization of God, in the process of
self-discovery.
You'll be growing in consciousness each
time you find the courage to choose another out of the box adventure. Every out
of the box being choice will bring you close to home, closer to knowing who you
really are.
If you see yourself as someone who has
trouble deciding, I want you to think about the power of choice like you would a
muscle that needed strengthening. How do muscles get stronger? Through exercise.
You've been exercising your power of
choice all your life, but you haven't allowed yourself to see that each being
choice has had a corresponding benefit and/or consequence.
Are you beginning to see why it is so
important to pay attention to the being decision that preceded every doing
activity? Can you begin to see your current circumstances as, perhaps, the
natural outcome of some past unconscious being choice.
If we fail to see unhappy circumstances
as the consequence of our own unwise being choices, we then quite naturally,
fall into the victim's role, a victim of those circumstances. By this indirect
path, by not taking responsibility for our being choices, we've actually chosen to
be a victim.
And once you've chosen the victim's
role in life, you will automatically attract more and more evidence to prove
that you are who you've chosen to be.
With each being decision, you are, in
fact, choosing an identity. Once you become conscious of all the little,
seemingly insignificant being choice you're making, you'll find it easier to
change your mind about the little things.
See this exercise of increasing your
smaller being decisions awareness, as your way of building a solid base of self
confidence for making the bigger decisions.
Once you begin to see everything in
your life as the effect of a being choice, your victim stories will no longer
hold up. You will realize that you are a victim only because you've chosen to
be, and once you've taken responsibility, you'll be able to laugh at yourself
for falling into that trap.
So, start your process of becoming more
powerful in the decision making department, by knowing that every doing activity
was preceded by a being commitment. Then begin paying attention; become
conscious of your moment-by-moment being choices.
Acknowledge each being choice as
another clue to your true identity and make that okay. But if you decide you
don't like the resulting circumstances or who you are being in that instance,
you will then be empowered to choose a different way of being that will promote
more desirable results.
Anyway, this is a powerful exercise for
taking charge of your life moment-by-moment, growing you consciousness, taking
your personal power, your self confidence to the next level in the Game of Life.
The more you choose, consciously taking
full responsibility for both the benefits and the consequences of your BEING
choices, the more you'll know who you are. This is the true path to winning in
the only game in town, The Game of Life.
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Chapter 1 - The Magic of Being
Transformed
from my book
"So, Why Aren't You Rich?" -
Pg. 20
