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Self confidence is the
most powerful form of riches on the planet.
No matter what you believe to the contrary, nothing is more important to you, to
the members of your family, to your friends or the people with whom you work,
before anything else, you must first believe in yourself.
Believe me, without
self-assurance, nothing else matters. Nothing is more important to you or your
family and friends, than self confidence. Without it, you couldn't function.
I have a grandson, who in
his senior year in high school, was about to flunk out and have to come back for
another year. His math teacher had him convinced that he was dumb. I offered to
coach him.
After two coaching
sessions, he was certain he could easily pass the math test, and he did. Did I
teach him any math? No. I gave him confidence. And guess what? He is now an
estimator for a wholesale electric company, earning his living using math to bid
jobs for electrical contractors.
He's earning a good living
using a skill his math teacher told him he would never be good at.
When I was in school, I
went from near failing grades, to A's and B's overnight. I went from dumb to
smart in the flick of an eyelash, because my 7th grade English teacher gave me
something I hadn't had before; she gave me belief in myself. She gave me self
confidence.
When you give others
confidence, an amazing thing happens; your belief in yourself must grow as well.
Why is that? You can't give someone something until you first own it.
Many people go through life
calling attention to what's not
right. The smart ones are looking for and
praising what is right, because they know that real success is in being more
confident.
Everyone is an
individualization of God, but for many people, the power is turned off. You can
be the one who turns on that power in them, just by giving them the gift of
confidence.
Want your kids to get
better grades? Stop pointing out what they're doing wrong; instead, tell them
what they're doing right and watch them blossom. Don't fuss at your spouse or
your significant other about what you don't like; instead, praise the good
stuff.
One of the most important
rules for maintaining a happy relationship is to use every available opportunity
to say something nice, something that will have him or her liking him or herself
when with you.
I heard some very good
advice once, about the simple task of loading a dishwasher. If a family
member loads the dishwasher and you don't like the way they did it and tell
them so, they won't want to help again. If instead, you tell them how much you
appreciate their help and ignore the fact that their style of loading the
dishwasher is different from yours, they will be happy to do it again. This
strategy can be applied to anything.
With your praise, you've
just given that individual self confidence, a very powerful loving gift. Your
gift is even more awesome when you allow yourself to realize, since we are each
individualizations of God, that
belief in one's self and belief in God are one and the same.
Think about that for a
moment. Once you've learned the trick, you can actually turn on and turn up the
power of God in others just by helping them believe in themselves. And in doing
so, you'll be turning up the amperage on your own God power.
Before you can see the God
power in anyone else, you must first see it in yourself. But the giving is an
empowering adventure, because you can't give anyone that power, that it doesn't
return to you tenfold. As a wise investor, can you see that it would be hard to
beat that kind of return on an investment.
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"The Success Blockers" E-booklet
Pg. 16
How great would your life be, if you knew for
certain you could have whatever you wanted from life by acquiring the self confidence to choose it. I
define self confidence as belief in one's self, as 'can do' power.
Self confidence can also be defined as freedom from doubt, as in knowing you
can and will do whatever it takes to have what you want.
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Chapter 10 - Where Is God?
from my book
"So, Why Aren't You Rich?" -
Pg. 248
