How To Stop Being A Victim
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What if 99% of all problems in life persist because we humans focus on the
problem and not its solution?
If that is the case, then the real problem is in your focus. The obvious solution
then, would be to change your focus, wouldn't?
Think a minute about what a simple solution this is.
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Every moment of your life, whether you realize it or not, requires a BEING
choice. Before you can take whatever action the moment requires, you must first
choose to BE the one who will or will not respond to the situation.
Even when you choose not to choose or not to respond, you are, in fact,
choosing to BE someone who chooses to DO nothing.
Actually, there are three
choices in every situation, you can chose to fight, run or hide. In other words,
you can act, react or do nothing.
The value in being aware that each
moment in life requires a BEING choice, is that once you accept this premise as
your reality, you cease being a victim forever. Heaven forbid that you BE that
powerful!
If you think you're not a
victim, think again. You're being a
victim whenever you complain about anything.
I frequently complained about the weather when I lived in Phoenix, AZ. I
especially hated it when I got into my car after it had been sitting out
in the sun all day in 120 degree heat.
To get real value out of this
example, you must see that I was choosing to BE a victim of the heat.
How did I stop being a victim?
I hated the summers in Phoenix, until I realized
that I had my own private sauna every evening when I got off work. In
those days, I played golf every weekend. After each game, I spent time
in the sauna.
Notice that the heat didn't go
away when I stopped being a victim. The only thing that changed was my
attitude about the heat. In other words, I changed who I was being
relative to the weather, and the problem was no longer part of my
reality.
Then every weekend, when I
played golf in Albuquerque, my golfing buddies complained about the
terrible 90 degree heat, and I got to silently chuckle at their victim
stories. Your BEING choice, when you're
complaining about anything, is nothing more serious than a point of view
that can be changed when you're ready to stop being the victim.
You'll get real value out of
this message if and when it finally dawns on you that every moment of
your life requires a BEING decision.
As you read this, you must
decide to accept what I'm saying as gospel or reject it because it
doesn't fit your current concept of reality. Either way, you've made a
BEING decision.
My guess is that you'll reject
what I'm saying here, because accepting it destroys your victim story
and makes you powerful.
Ego's greatest fear is that you will one
day,
discover just how powerful you really are.
So, my suggestion for you
today, is that each time in life that you find yourself in an
uncomfortable situation, realize that the circumstance requires a BEING
decision prior to your deciding what to DO. Then ask yourself,
"Who would I be BEING if I were no longer
stressed by what's happening here?"
When you choose past the stress
to a new way of looking at the problem you've applied the BEING solution
to your problem.
Try this problem solution next
time you feel stressed, or when you feel you have something to complain
about. You'll be amazed at how powerful you feel once you've taken the
power out of the circumstances and given it back to yourself.
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Chapter 1, The Quantum Leap,
from
"To God Or As God" - Pg 10.
Choosing out of unhappiness
into happiness is a quantum leap you could take at any moment of now.
Why not choose happiness now? The quantum leap happens any time you
change your mind about who you are, or who you will be. It also happen
once you've changed your mind about what you believe. That quantum leap,
in each case, will be a transformation in consciousness.
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Chapter 2 - Our Resistance To Change
from my book
"So, Why Aren't You Rich?" -
Pg. 43
Your Reactions Are Who You Are
Your perception of yourself came into existence
as a result of your having chosen who you would be. Each time you
reacted to the circumstances in your life, you were choosing who to be
under those or similar circumstances. Your reactions didn't just happen,
you chose how you would react.
Please realize that your reactions and your
reasons for those reactions are who you are. You re-establish your
identity every time you react.
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Chapter 3 - In The Image And Likeness
Of God
from my book
"Being The Solution" - pg 37
Who would you be BEING
if that
were no longer a problem?
To test this question out, think about your
worst problem. Got it? Now, ask yourself that question. "Who would I
be BEING if that were no longer the problem." Notice that the
question takes you right past the reasons for your problem to its
solution. Think about this! If you allowed yourself to BE as powerful as
you really are (Being God individualized), the problem would simply
dissolve and disappear.
For example, I know someone who had a powerful
fear of speaking in public. Her question would have been, "Who would
I be BEING if my fear of speaking in public were no longer my problem?"
She chose a new BEING statement that would take her beyond
that fear. Then, she joined Toastmasters; six months later, she won a
division speech contest.
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