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Want to own my own business but afraid of failure
A Money Problem:
Darel,
I have always desired to operate my own business/companies. My problem is i don't know what to do.
I listen to self help tapes, practiced meditation, etc. These have helped me in other areas of my life e.g.; relationships, work etc. But not my major objective "A business of my own".
I don't have the finances to start a business and i am scared because i may fail. I also believe i lack confidence in my self.
Moreover has become more of a concern to me now as I am attending University to obtain a degree in Computer Science. (I am 35 yrs old married with 2 kids and a salary equivalent to US $1000.00 per month, I live in Jamaica W.I.). My salary is not helping me and my family needs are growing, I need a real house to live in, my oldest is preparing to attend high school, and I need to pay my school fees. I feel overwhelmed and frustrated.
Darel please advise me?
Need to break free.
A BEING Solution:
ER, as I read this email, I tried to decide on a title for your problem, but since you’ve listed several problems, no one title seemed to fit. So, I will focus my BEING Solution answer on you’re ‘My problem is “I don’t know what to do.’”
I’d like to start by saying that you can never get the right answer if you’re asking the wrong question. “What shall I do to solve my problem?” is the wrong question if you really want your problem solved.
What’s the right question? The only question that will lead you to the real solution for your problem is, “Who would I need to BE in order to have my problem be solved?” Once you’ve answered that question, you will know what you need to do and you’ll just naturally DO it.
You see, ER, you live in a box; we all do. That box was created when you decided who you would be. That BEING Choice created the reality that contains your problem. The solution to your problem is in a reality that’s outside that box that will be created when you choose a new way of BEING.
In order to solve your problem, you must step out of your problem box into a new way of BEING that would have your problem solved.
So, let’s see how we can apply this problem solving approach to you problem of your major objective, “to own a business of your own.” Your problems around that objective are that you don’t have money to invest and you are not sure you have the self-confidence to pull it off.
I say again, ER, you can’t solve a problem from inside the box in which the problem now exists. And, without a burning desire to choose out of your box, you probably won’t. So your first job in creating a new reality (a new box) for yourself would be to create a burning desire for having your own business.
Begin by visualizing what your life would be like if you owned your own very successful business. What would your new life style be like? Where would you live? How would be enjoying life if your income from that business were all that you had ever dreamed of.
The primary purpose of creating this vision is to get you sufficiently motivated so that you’ll choose out of the old box—to make that picture of success so exciting that you wouldn’t be able to resist choosing to BE the one in that new reality.
What you may not know, ER, is that just choosing a new way of BEING makes you a magnet for attracting whatever belongs in the reality of your new BEING commitment. Once you step out of the old box, your self-confidence will rise to meet the occasion. And your new way of BEING will know exactly what to do and how to do it. Anyway, as the owner of the business, anything you don’t know how to do, you can hire it done.
I know that sounds too simple, but that’s truly the way it works. Life at any level of consciousness is merely a BEING CHOICE.
Darel