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...teach me how to fish, please.

A Money Problem:

Dear Darel,

 

We spoke briefly in December 2002 and I have read your e version of your book. I sat down and attempted to follow your guidelines. However I find my self not finding a way to make things happen.

 

This is my problem:

 

I have been reading your newsletters and I read your book. I have heard tremendous accolades about you and your successes.

 

So I took the opportunity to send you an email and see if I could speak with you and tell you that getting off my ass and trying to do something was not an issue. NO EXCUSES, I want to succeed and I have to succeed, my family's well-being and our future are riding on it, period.

 

I know there are millions of folks out there in my situation or worse, but the majority of them have no desire to achieve their goals, we do in this family.

 

I came from a background in graphic design, marketing, advertising and self-employment. I know the ups and downs of going into a business and having to develop a strategy. I understand what it takes to put the ego aside and say to yourself "you have to do it no matter what, you can not give up".

 

I understand the need to be around my three young children and see them grow up and see them enjoy life, I never chose the high-end profile career because life and family were and are the most important elements in our lives, period.

 

So 4 years ago we agreed that we were going to accept an offer to work for a US company that offered both of us that flexibility. Things were going extremely well, no complaints, happy as a pig in mud. We had a beautiful home and we were able to enjoy our children everyday.

 

Fourteen months ago almost to the month, the company we were working for started to feel the effects of September 11th, just like a lot of other software companies in the US, we got hit very badly.

 

By March 2002, the company had informed us that things were going downhill. There was a possibility that they would have let go of 90% of the staff.

 

By May 2002 almost 75% of the people were let go. Now under normal circumstances I would not be as concerned, both my wife and I are very marketable in this country and we could if we had too get jobs and live with that for a while.

 

Our unique circumstances prevented us from taking that route. We are both Canadians and we are in the USA under L1 work visas. That means we can only work for the employer stipulated in the work visas, period. The employer also has very tuff regulations that they had to abide by.

 

First, they could not fire or terminate our contract unless they went under and declared bankruptcy. So they had to keep us on the payroll. The problem was they were by law allowed to pay us for a period of 12 months only 1/10th of our combined wages.

 

So we were now going to earn around 1000.00 combined. We were told by the company that if they hold out until September 2002 that by October 2002 things would get back on track. That never happened and in the New Year the company stopped all activities.

 

With some saving and with the little amount of money we were getting, we managed to pay some of our bills and put food on the table. We managed to get by on $65.00 per week for a family of five.

 

It's April and we have no money, were about to lose everything we have worked hard for and by law I can not work for another employer in the USA. I have less than four months to prove to the INS I can survive financially in the US. I have to prove them wrong and I have to get my family back on track. 

  

So after this long winded story, where am I headed? I have been looking for a mentor out there someone who can say Alex I can show you how to do it and get going with your personal life, family's well being and business. 

 

I am looking for someone willing to take this guy who is beside himself, because of the current situation his family is in. I am looking for some to guide me along and teach me how to achieve this success.

 

I am a no BS guy, I am hurting, my family is hurting and I hoped that someone out there would take a little time to help out.

 

I can not afford any of the courses out there, I have read a ton of free based material including Spiritual Marketing. I have a burning passion to succeed and I am willing to be a lab rat if that's what it takes.

 

You know what they say "feed a man a fish and you feed him for the day. Teach him how to fish and you feed him for life". I am asking if you can teach me how to fish, please.

 

 Thank you for taking the time to look at this.

 

 Sincerely,

 

AR

 A Being Solution:

I wish I had a simple answer for your problem, AR. So, instead, I’ll confuse you with more of what you read in my book. And I’ll start with the bad news first.

 

The book contains the only real solution to your problem and you couldn’t see it because seeing it would have required that you look beyond your problem to BEING your problem's solution.

 

You’ve asked that I teach you how to fish, but that wouldn't work. Teaching you how to fish wouldn’t solve your problem unless you had first chosen to BE a fisherman. I don’t see that you’ve made that BEING decision.

 

You see AR, if while reading my book, you had gotten the message and chosen to BE THE SOLUTION, you would not be asking me for a DOING Solution for your problem. You would already be doing it.

 

In my book thatI gave you what you needed to know in order to choose to BE the fisherman. The hidden secret in life is that once you’ve made your BEING commitment, the Universe provides everything that belongs in the reality of your new BEING Choice.

 

Life really is that simple, AR! Just choose a new way of BEING and then reap the benefits of that BEING decision. It’s like planting a seed in the mind of God. You just plant the seed and then reap the harvest!

 

You see, AR, for as long as you continue to focus on your problem, you are a victim, and victims never win until they choose to no longer BE the victim. Once the victim finds the courage to choose out of the victim’s role, he or she becomes a winner automatically.

 

Choosing out of your victim role is the BEING Solution for your problem.

 

Here’s why you can’t win without a new BEING Choice

 

As I see it, AR, you are desperately trying not to fail. In my book, “It’s impossible to succeed while trying not to fail.” That’s because the avoidance-of-failure attitude is exactly the opposite of the winner’s attitude that you must have for winning. In fact, you can’t win without it.

 

To win at anything, a football game, a game of tennis, or just being the family’s provider, the focus must be on winning, not just on surviving. The survivor is just a looser who hasn’t given up yet.

 

AR, your letter may seem positive to you, but, if you’ll look again, you’ll see that it’s really focused on the problem not the solution.

 

Everyone has a problem, and the truth is that our problem persists only because we focus our attention on the problem and not the solution.

 

I don’t have a DOING solution for your problem, but I know this; If you can find the courage to choose out of your box and make the BEING commitment that will solve your problem, the Universe is ready and WAITING on the sidelines to give you everything that belongs with that new BEING choice.

 

You see, I can’t solve your problem, because the solution to your problem is a BEING Solution that only you can make.

 

You must start with the question, What would solve my problem? And Who would I BE if I had that problem solved? Then choose to BE that person.

 

So, I’ll leave you with this. Sometimes you have to make it okay to fail, before you can choose to BE a winner. You can’t afford to win what you can’t afford to loose.