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...Try seeing the problem from a new perspective
Your
problem can't be solved
from the same frame of mind
in which the
problem now exists
So wouldn't the
solution for your problem
be to change your frame of mind?
Here's
the attitude in which
the problem exists and persists:
"I'm sharing the custody
of my children with
a jerk"
He seems to go out of his way to
make life difficult for me!
Why is he
being such a pain in the butt, now?
A
change of
perspective
Wasn't he was once the good guy? At least you
once thought so, or you wouldn't have married him.
Maybe, if you treated him more like
the friend he once was than the enemy, he wouldn't be such a jerk.
Maybe, he's just reflecting back at
you what you're projecting out as your feelings toward him.
"Other men are lenses
through which we read our own
minds"
--Ralph Waldo Emerson
-- Chapter 15, Solving Relationship Problems,
BEING THE SOLUTION
What do you suppose would happen if
you treated him more like a friend and less like the enemy?
Try to recapture the mind-set you
had when you loved each other. If you need help in the process, you might
want to read:
BEING THE SOLUTION
The real key to a happy
relationship:
"When you build a
fire of anger in your heart,
guess who gets burned"
-- Chapter 15, Solving Relationship Problems,
BEING THE SOLUTION
But the real solution
(not just
a band aid)
for your
"sharing custody with a
jerk" problem,
would a significant shift
in your way of BEING in that relationship.
Please get that you have chosen
who to be in that relationship
even though you're out of it
To accomplish that being shift you might
want to
sign up for the BEING Workshop
About the being
workshop
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